I guess I am a phantom.
I have successfully pulled off being at several events and cities many times. It’s not easy and it requires forward thinking and planning, but I make it to all I can. Thanksgivings as a child, past Homecomings and CIAA festivities has helped. Here are some tips on how I have achieved this feat.
1. Try to keep your events a few cities or one county apart.
Just this past Saturday, I had two parties at 7, and one party at 10. The cities were close so it was cool. Now I have had it where I have had a party in Spartanburg at 10 and one in Charlotte at 9. Obviously that’s a personal preference scenario.
2. Plan how long you will stay at each event.
Know when each one begins and the other one ends. This helps in making the next one and being in that “phantom” mentality.
You want to be a good guest and stay 1-2 hours. If not, let the folks know you’re stopping by.
3. Don’t overdo it, know your limits.
It appears in my experience Saturdays are when everything happens. As the night gets later, more stuff may happen, time starts running out, and you have to choose. Therefore, prioritize. But, how?
4. Choosing which events you go to.
The first rule of thumb is who lets you know first. Outside of family and close friends, everyone else falls according to promptness, how close you all are, and closeness. You obviously won’t make someone a priority if you aren’t that close. Now if it’s a milestone birthday, wedding or such, they may get bumped up. We have had plenty of big nights and events, with more to come.
5. Find where your last event is and plan to stay there the longest.
This is how I try to do my phantoming. I try to find the event that’s the most chill, lasts the longest, and where I’m closest to the people there. I often am not only too tired to leave, I don’t want to. It’s a perfect nightcap.
The advice I just gave isn’t for everyone. But don’t try to tell me you don’t have time for this event and that event. I can help if you really want to be there.