It’s Ok To Take Social Breaks Here and Thers

Not only are social breaks okay, they are highly recommended. One can get mentally tired from too much talking and socializing and need a break from “peopleing”.

There is now a term out called an ambivert. It’s a hybrid of an extrovert and an introvert. I believe this describes me the best. I love people and socializing, but the best time I have is in recharge mode, all alone.

Ambiverts get that just because you fall back from everyone for a while, it doesn’t mean you don’t want to talk ever. You simply need to refocus.

Again that’s OK. Just politely tell folks you’ll talk to them another time, don’t be rude or shady. People are best in small dosages anyways. This is Halloween week/weekend, where all sorts of socializing and weird stuff happens. Children gain the courage to ask strangers and friends alike for candy. After the sugar and people rush, they definitely need a break as well.

So continue to be social, but don’t apologize for canceling an appointment, a dinner date, or an outing. That me time is so important. I’m getting mine in right now. Enjoy!

#imjustdrew #fromdarktosunshine

Four Keys To A Successful Relationship (social, business, romantic, etc)

This is a post that I have been speaking on for about 16 years.

Too much we lack the key ingredients when it comes to achieving success. Relationships are no different.

There are four key elements/ingredients that a relationship of any type must have to succeed. These are honesty, trust, communication and respect. Lacking even one can sour things.

You have to be honest and upfront with your friends and such. Your word is your bond and you can’t jeopardize credibility with people you care about.

Mutual trust must also exist. Do you trust each other? Why or why not? Once that is broken, it is hard to regain. It’s actually easier to earn it. Therefore it’s best that one is of good character and doesn’t ruin people’s trust of them.

Communication is more widespread now but yet has seemed to have gotten worse. It now seems easier to misinterpret people and messages. You must make your desires and voice heard and known. Anyone you deal with seriously should know where they stand with you.

Respect ties all of this up. You should respect each other, other people and yourself. This also has to be earned and maintained. There has to be that feeling between two parties where you can respect their heart, character and actions.

Therefore, if you’re looking to rebuild or rekindle anything going into the late year holidays, keep these in mind.

#imjustdrew #fromdarktosunshine

You have feelings, they matter and they get hurt also

I have been seeing a lot of people getting their feelings hurt lately. It saddens me, as I am currently going through this, and I know how it feels. 

I wrote last week about betrayal. Well getting your feelings crushed is the sibling of betrayal. Sometimes this person may have not meant it. But you still may hurt for weeks, at least until this person or persons proves they are better than this. 

Humans will human and change on a dime. You don’t need to be around people, places or situation that threaten your emotional health. You are not alone so seek out those who wouldn’t do this to you. 

Now there’s a different in being tactfully honest and simply bruising your feelings like a sly serpent or the many whores, liars and thieves in history. They have evil inside of them and do not need to coexist with your happiness. 

My friend and fellow author Larry Parks has a hashtag #EnjoyLife. I invite you to do this, and to find your happy place and people. You deserve to live in peace. I pray that you get away from any negativity and live great!

#imjustdrew #fromdarktosunshine 

Having a social life while training for a marathon

It’s currently training season for many of my fellow runners as we gear up for Fall and Winter races. I have three coming up in a few months, including one less than a month out. It has been challenging, but I have been preparing, and continuing to have a social life. 

It takes a lot of prayer, planning and prioritizing. Here are some tips to accomplish this: 

1. Set a routine

You need to have a training routine first and foremost. If you don’t, there are several out there. Mine of choice is Jeff Galloway’s. Truth be told, outside of things such as work and family, not much comes before all of this. Having this routine keeps you plugged in and motivated. 

2. Try not to have any engagements too early or late. 

Typically training runs occur in the mornings. Some afternoon and evening runs also happen as the temperatures drop (still waiting for that in the South). Now having stuff too early or late can halt these. If this is an early run, do the bare minimum, and be inside early. If it’s evening, run before or after you link up with people. Bringing me to

3. Be dedicated but flexible 

Allow for flexibility in your training regimen. This includes even planning for inclement weather. Try to fit in runs on odd days, lunch hours, and late nights. Even utilize the dreadmill. Yeah I know it’s hard to beat pavement and trail but you have to keep training and working. 

4. Cross train, eat well and stress less during this time. 

Having an active social life is apart of all of this. You are adjusting your lifestyle so you can be in superb shape come race day. Use the time with friends and other engagements as good breaks, then get back to it. 

5. Have others motivate you

This can include members of a running group, fellow runners and peers. Once you’re deep into training, it can be easier to fit in the rest. Just remember to breathe and recover every now and then. 

6. Recovery sessions are best for this

Carbing up and days off can be used for social time. It’s a matter of fitting it all in. 

I have never been the fastest and long distance running can ruin speed even more. But it builds energy and endurance necessary for all of your desires. Keep running and keep socializing. We know what happens when it’s all work and no play. 

#imjustdrew #fromdarktosunshine