There is a line from a movie that goes: “you’re like the drummer from REO Speedwagon. No one even knows who you are.”
Now while that can be obtained from a Google search, this seems to happen to people, even close friends when seasons change and vacations arise.
The friends you thought you had may change up on you and not be as nice or welcoming. Often you will not get an explanation, you will just know that you may be an associate at best.
Parties happen, no call, no text. Then it’s concerts, vacations, Heck even a simple dinner invite.
I have touched on this often, in my blog post “The D-List” “Betrayal: The Evil Cousin of Loyalty” and even in the chapter “Fall Out or Fall Back” from “From Darkness to Sunshine.”
The point is that it hurts. It’s a deep, sickening pain. I have had many losses in my life and few hurt more than a friend turning on you.
There are many reasons it happens. Sometimes it could be simply you. Often it’s an issue with their inner self. They can’t handle your presence, period. The successes in your life, your personality, popularity. Also, they may be in a different season of life than you are in, just as Australia and the Southern Hemisphere.
Recognizing when it’s time to back away is the key. Often it doesn’t stop the hurt but then you know when you’re not wanted. You can then move on to somewhere that appreciates you for the person you are.
Meanwhile, continue to be positive and open to making connections.
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