It’s been a while since I wrote on here. This shouldn’t even be something I’m discussing but apparently I need to clarify.
I do have FOMO and I do like/want to be invited to stuff. It’s good for my mental and it fills my heart. It’s one of the hallmarks of the entire brand.
However I know, understand and respect boundaries. I may joke from time to time about crashing a party or shindig Poetic Justice style even if I do know the people. However I haven’t did that since perhaps my early 30s.
I see if something is for the public (EVERYONE, ANYONE). There are several public events I don’t want nor care to attend. Private events/invite only events are different in many ways. There are ones that I may need access to but I need to know someone (Diner En Blanc, Pink Ice Gala, someone’s wedding or retirement ceremony). Heck anything with an RSVP. Events such as anything in the confines of a home, class reunion, again a wedding, something with VIP access are events I get. Even a family event, club or girls night qualifies. Understand I was raised with values and sense. My mom would want me to belong but not be where I’m not wanted nor welcomed. That’s how I carry my life.
Despite how much I carry on, if I truly am not welcome or it’s a private affair I’m good. It doesn’t matter if you’re my closest family member or friend. What we have is truly a failure to communicate. I wouldn’t ask to come on a date or any romantic encounter with a married or dating couple. This doesn’t include a third wheel option.
We are into the season of high school and college Homecomings, Friendsgivings, Holiday parties, etc. Trust me, I won’t just pop up nor complain if there were no prior communication nor expectation of me arriving.
There is definitely a difference between public and private and I know that difference.
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